The Media’s take on Beauty and the Average Woman’s daily struggle



I wrote this article for Blogcritics in April of this year. I’d thought I’d re-post it. The comments on the original article are interesting.

Ladies, Ten Ways to Boost Your Self-Esteem

In view of Hollywood’s eternal trend of making their celebrities skinnier and more youthful-looking every day, thus making us normal women feel worse about ourselves, the time has come to fight back and change the way we relate to our bodies and understand the concept of beauty.

First things first. As women, beauty is an issue for us. We like to feel beautiful; it’s part of our female inner workings. The problem is that the beauty standards the media has imprinted into our brains have very little to do with the average woman. They are, at best, impossible and fascist standards. Women have become enslaved to them.

The long road back from slavery is possible. It mainly involves saying no to the system and trying to change the way you perceive your body and those of the women that surround you. More often it would seem beauty is a competition with other women instead of a nice gesture to our guys or a nice gesture to ourselves.

Make beauty a thing of gestures more than a competition. Understand that we all can be beautiful, even though we haven’t lost those five pounds.

The following are some tips that have proven helpful to the guinea pigs my friends and I are:

1. When standing in front of a mirror and taking a look at what you think are “problem areas” (problem areas according to the media’s beauty standards), focus on your dazzling smile, killer hair, and great cleavage instead of how you don’t have great abs.

2. Take a good look at Rubens’ nudes and Renoir’s bathing beauties. You will find they are beautiful. If you look like that, you too are beautiful!

3. Apply make-up (but not in an amateur way; browse the ‘net for information on techniques that will suit you). The high you get from seeing your face come to life is unbeatable.

4. Develop a fabulous strut. Try to walk swaying your hips a little. Don’t be afraid to get in touch with your feminine side.

5. Highlight what you like about yourself by buying clothes that draw attention to these areas. Got a great cleavage? Show it off a little!

6. Believe you are beautiful. Think beautiful and live beautiful. Walk on the street and feel beautiful. Hold your head up high, toss your hair, and take a deep breath. If you don’t believe you are beautiful, how will others see you as beautiful?

7. Smile, smile, smile. Nothing makes a woman seem more attractive than a friendly smile.

8. Avoid programs that show impossible beauty. Don’t get caught up in the lie!

9. Don’t be afraid of the mirror. Look at your body and bond with it. Feel those curves and be thankful you are healthy.

10. Understand that the most important part of beauty comes from within. Outer beauty fades through time, but inner beauty lasts throughout your whole life. Cultivate your spirit, read, soar, and don’t spend so much time in front of that TV!

I wrote this article for RELEVANT a couple of years back and it pretty much deals with the same issue. The comments aren’t available sadly.


Let’s learn stuff: The Cabala

Disclaimer: It’s always good to know about the world around you… That said, I must make clear that in no way does the author of this post practice or agree with Cabala. This is simply the first rendition of “Interesting Stuff or so we believe…”, for your learning experience.


—Cabala (Hebrew form Ḳabbalah [“to receive”; literally, “the received or traditional lore”]):
The specific term for the esoteric or mystic doctrine concerning God and the universe, asserted to have come down as a revelation to elect saints from a remote past, and preserved only by a privileged few…



Modern Hassidic Judaism (if you want to know more about it, I suggest you read this book, it absolutely rocks, transports you to a singular world of Hassidic Jews, sometimes funny, other times endearing, always interesting…) have made the Cabala more “popular”. Bringing it closer to masses.

Cabbalists claim that Cabala brings one spiritually closer to God and enriches the experience of Judaic texts and laws.

Cabala is considered Esoteric.

Cabala is also considered (by some Christians) to be part of Freemasonry, part of a conspiracy to rid the world of Christianity and sometimes it is considered Witchcraft:

Dating back to Zoroastrianism, the Jewish Cabala reverses the roles of God and Lucifer and embraces occult symbols, rituals and blood sacrifices. Source

You might also want to expand and do some research on Abraham Abulafia, a Sephardic Jew and one of the earliest Cabbalists.


Rabbi Abraham Issac Cook (1865 – 1935) stresses the importance of the Cabala.

“Due to the alienation from the “secret of God” [i.e. Kabbalah], the higher qualities of the depths of Godly life are reduced to trivia that do not penetrate the depth of the soul.

(I was thinking, from my Christian core, about how sad it is for someone to say the above… especially this “….that do not penetrate the depths of the soul…”

It is a fortunate thing that Christ penetrates the human soul and makes it one with the Father, allowing us to dwell inside “the higher qualities and the depths” of God. It truly is a blessing.

In any case, there you have it… you form your own opinion.)

Suggestion: If you’re Christian, I believe it isn’t necessary for me to state that you might not want to get mixed up in anything esoteric. Ever.