Lauren Winner discusses Sex and Christianity

I mean seriously, how hard is it to accept that sex outside of marriage spoils the original intent of sex? Over at Bohemian Alien, we’re no prudes… the issue has nothing to do with decorum or packaged clich├ęs Christianity may have fed you from birth. It is a matter of reading the New Testament and abiding God’s law which as Lauren Winner states:

… (life lived inside the contours of God’s law) humanizes us and makes us beautiful. It makes us creatures living well in the created order. It gives us the opportunity to become who we are meant to be.

Lauren Winner makes a fine point in this article.

However the reader’s comments leave you shaking your head. At least I shook my head.

Afterthought: So, were does that leave kissing or other types of demonstrations of affection? I believe moderation is the key.

Of course, in today’s very sexual/sexed-up society, maintaining your resolve to lead a chaste life (until the time comes to party!) may be at times, extremely difficult. Yet not impossible. So, I ask myself, why does everyone look for excuses to justify behavior that 1) in the light of scripture if you’re a fundamentalist hard-core Christian is unjustifiable and 2) if you’re one of those laissez faire, laissez passer type Christians -umm… which I would not recommend – then how about the very simple fact that sex is a powerful force, the ultimate act of love between two individuals that want to unite as one (so much as they can inside the physical realm) and this union, far from being a sporting event, is a union that probably has repercussions in the spiritual realm (Mathew 14.6)? Shouldn’t this simple reasoning be enough to wait? To save the good stuff till marriage?

Why does dating necessarily imply sex? Even for Christians? I really don’t get it.

I mean come on… when did virtues such as chastity, virginity become a thing to be ashamed of…? And best not discussed, not even in Churches (among all those other topics that churches don’t/won’t discuss…)?


And finally, a quote from the movie Bicentennial Man in which the character of Andrew Hardy (Robin Williams) says regarding sex:

That you can lose yourself. Everything. All boundaries. All time. That two bodies can become so mixed up, that you don’t know who’s who or what’s what. And just when the sweet confusion is so intense you think you’re gonna die… you kind of do. Leaving you alone in your separate body, but the one you love is still there. That’s a miracle. You can go to heaven and come back alive. You can go back anytime you want with the one you love.