When life suddenly becomes ironic and people dear to our hearts become a letdown


(Dorothy) Sayers’s frustrations in young adulthood were exacerbated by crises in her personal life.
One of the most traumatic incidents was her relationship with writer John Cournos.

They met in 1921 and Sayers became deeply committed to him. Cournos claimed to oppose marriage and having children on principle, but was willing to be Sayers’s lover if they used contraception. She refused, ending the affair in 1922 because she desired marriage and despised the anxieties of a clandestine relationship: “One can’t be ecstatic about something which involves telling lies to one’s charwoman!” (1:222)

Cournos had also scorned detective stories, even as Sayers was beginning to write them. She was thus wounded deeply to learn in 1924 that he had wed an American detective writer with two children.

Her letters to him following this discovery are the most poignant in these volumes, not only because of the specific suffering Cournos had caused Sayers, but also because these missives were one of the rare times that she gave full expression to her emotions.”

Touchstone Magazine, Article “Mind of a Maker” by Adam Schwartz – 2000, re-print 2007